Discussing Money with Your Partner
This article is about discussing money with your partner. The points in it are pretty basic but I disagree with some of it. I thought it would be worth sharing my opinion. I think my idea of handling finances and relationships are pretty easy. Basically to me it comes down to the fact that if you want a real relationship, or a real financial plan, you have to be grown up about it. The five points in the article are: 1. Ignore right and wrong beliefs, 2. No $ as a weapon, 3. Goals as a couple, 4. Commit to goals, 5. Keep some for yourselves.
I don’t like ignoring things. People have feelings and emotions. The trick is getting past those, being accountable and responsible, and doing things right even if it isn’t easy. With that said, my thoughts on the article are as follows:
- While there may not be right and wrong there are some attitudes and actions that are better than others. The key is to base this comparison on your situation and goals. If you cannot take criticism or be corrected than you will have trouble in a real relationship or making your own financial plan.
- Don’t use anything as a weapon. You are partners. Work together. If you have to fight then do everything you can to fight fair.
- Great point, especially planning for how things will change in order to get there. Understand together what you want, what it takes, what risks and tradeoffs are involved.
- Commit to it and track progress. This is key in working toward any goal.
- Hmm. I have two thoughts here. First I don’t like having set amounts. Strict limits or budgets like that are too generic for me. We each spend little bits of money on our own. When it seems a bit too much we discuss it. Second, I disagree with point 1 and have the same thought here. Some things are bad moves, there are better ways to use money, and you are in it together. If I was taking money and burning it I would hope my partner would stop me.